|July 27, 2015
Tribe Report - Trading University
3 members present. 3 absent (two overseas, one on a work course). Another member recently moved to <city> will be joining shortly.
At the previous Tribe (not reported), we say farewell to an old member who retires and moves to a farm.
Another member plans to move overseas in a couple of months.
After resolving issues in her relationship, perhaps with our help, she plans to move in with her partner. She organizes a conference and tells us very excitedly that she has agreement for <renowned trader> to speak.
It is a long time since we see our interstate former members. They also resolve their most pressing issues, perhaps in part with our help, and move forward in other ways. We remain in contact and they seem to be progressing well in their lives. One just put up a photo showing he succeeds in losing much excessive weight.
The trading university which I spin off the tribe, as a vehicle for talk about trading techniques, now has about 70 members. Most are new traders, some with tragic stories of big losses. I find training new traders helps me to solidify my own knowledge.
For quite a while I try very hard to follow the standard "TTP Process". This leads me into some frustration as people don't "follow my script". With my work on my trading system I emphasis 'discipline' less and "being in tune" more. With my trading system I remind myself why I want to do this, rather than trying to force myself to do it. After that, things go a lot better and I make more rapid and less stressful progress. I have fewer setbacks and I have more fun.
Perhaps I can do this with the Tribe as well. So I initiate a discussion of our Tribe process and how we can run it at the start of this meeting.
Member #1 says he does not "get" the rocks process. He is happy to participate in others' processes, and perhaps to have hot seats himself as a vehicle to ramp up his feelings. He feels he makes good progress by having the hot seats and "venting" from time to time. His trading progresses from big losses to reasonable gains, though he wants bigger gains.
He often complains about health problems, but seems unable to fix them. He seems - to me - to unerringly find ineffectual things to do. At the last meeting I suggest he try a snapshot with his health, write down a vision/goals and a plan and see what feelings come up. At this meeting he reports some progress - he is doing his Pilates exercises more often though he feels unsure that they help with the sciatica pains. He focuses strongly on making doing the exercises for 40 minutes each day into a strong habit. He finds a medication that helps with his joint pains. Larger doses of strong anti-inflammation medication help tame his skin inflammation. His weight loss has stalled. He sticks with the Pilates practitioner and has no plans to see a physiotherapist.
Before the meeting, while having dinner, I talk about Van Tharp's idea that we are made of parts, and if you think you want something but don't get it, some 'part' of you has a problem with the process or the outcome. I suggest that it occurs to me while reading this that perhaps some part of him may have a problem with getting healthy, or with what it takes to get healthy. He feels he is absolutely taking every reasonable step to improve his health and that there is really nothing more that he could possibly do, so he thinks that doesn't apply to his situation. I suggest asking his wife if she agrees and he changes the subject.
Yes I know this is analysis.
This member does not want to do a TTP process on the issue. So that's that.
Member #9 joins the tribe recently and feels happy with his involvement with it. He feels he lacks expertise to comment much further on the process. He reports that his marriage is much improved. His wife is spending more time with their baby and she is getting home in time to allow him (house husband) to come to Tribe. He reports she says that she feels he understands where she is coming from. He feels she understands his feelings too. This after he forms the intention to receive his wife. He is trading well, though his system has some ups and downs.
Member #3 (me). Last time I came in with a topic of "creating frustrating situations". I do not feel hot about this. Talking to other people, my life seems not very frustrating in comparison. So I don't do a hot seat on this. In following weeks I experience very little frustration. My trading work (not optimizing the system) proceeds nicely. I have a minor health problem but I am fixing it. My wife and I are getting along well. I don't feel hot. I have enrolled in another Breathwork session.
With no hot seats, we close the meeting about 20 minutes early.
I summarize by saying that with new members we will put them through the full TTP process, subject to willingness. Several of us really like and thrive with the TTP. Others seem not to like it. They can perhaps make some progress in other ways. I want to avoid amateur psychoanalysis, which doesn't work. I find that the snapshots can help. Beyond that, I am feeling fairly fluid about things. Maybe if everyone made rapid progress they would all leave and I would have no Tribe!
I close down my 401k-equivalent for various reasons. This turns out to be a fairly convoluted process due to government red tape. I feel good now it is done, but I wonder if I make a lot of busy work for myself somehow. This before the previous Tribe meeting.
After a Tribe meeting a while back I end up having a long conversation about moral philosophy with a religious Tribe member. This results in a long e-mail exchange and I end up reading a lot about moral philosophy. I also get interested in the history of religion, how various religious texts came about etc. But I feel concerned it is one of those "fascinating but useless" diversions.
I find running the Tribe a strange mixture of extremely gratifying experiences with wonderful changes in people's lives, combined with other times when we seem to make no progress, or very limited progress. Van Tharp claimed that most people don't want to change, though they want their lives to get better.
Possible topics for hot seats for me
* Fixing people who don't want to get 'fixed'
* Fascinating but useless activities
* Avoiding things by making busy work