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Monday, April 1, 2013

Chief,

It is so nice to see you're back with us again.
Please find my breath-work application bellow.
I can't wait to see you again.

Sincerely,

[Name]

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TT Workshop Graduate. YES December 2010
Read Adventure of Self Discovery by Stan Grof. YES
Study pages 167-219: Principles of Holotropic Therapy. YES


SVO-p
SVO-p stands for a form of communication with a Subject-Verb-Object in present tense syntax. I find examples easy just by noticing what is happening right now. I am writing a sentence, is a good example of SVO-p. I am thinking of what to write next, is another one. I am introduced to SVO-p when I read the Trading Tribe book and the Trading Tribe website. I use SVO-p whenever I think of it. When I think, write or speak in SVO-p I seem to enjoy more of what happens around me, I seem more centered and focused on the moment. I notice many successful and/or happy people often talk about being in the moment, in the flow of things at the peak of their performance or just experiencing joy. I think SVO-p helps to do just that.


Control-Centric and Intimacy-Centric Relating TTP and Questions
Control-Centric Relating means that one or more persons in a relationship aim towards controlling the other person's feelings, sometimes even their own. "You hurt my feelings." is a good example of one person trying to control another person's feelings. The person who says "you hurt my feelings" is trying to "hook" into controlling relationship with another person by evoking guilt. The key to the "controller's" success is to find a person, "controlee", who does not like to feel guilt. Today's communities of people mostly run on Control-Centric Model so this is not hard to do. Relationships like that can last for a long time. Other good examples would be "You don't love me", "I hate you", "I will leave you", and "don't feel that way". Control-Centric Relationships are usually well balanced and if one person controls through, let's say fear, the other person in the relationship may use anger to get some of the controlling game back. The key to Control-Centric Relationships is resistance of feelings, not acceptance. These relationships are often full of drama and anxiety and over time people feel less intimate with each other, more distant.

In Intimacy-Centric Relating things work a bit differently. Here the persons practicing the Intimacy-Centric model acknowledge and honor each other's feelings. Instead of one person saying "You hurt my feelings", they may say "I am hurt" and the other person may acknowledge the feelings – receive them – by saying "Thank you for telling me how you feel." The receiver may even encourage the sender of feelings to open up more if they wish so by saying "Please tell me more." without the intention to change or control the sender's feelings. In Intimacy-Centric Relationship we honor our feelings and the feelings of others. We notice when the other person is sharing feelings and listen without the intent of changing anything – we receive. On the other hand if we are sharing our feelings we communicate them clearly as our own feelings, without attaching blame to the other person. We often check for willingness to share feelings. We do not force others to share feelings with us, nor do we force our own feelings on to them without prior consent to sharing them. In Intimacy-Centric Relationships people experience more joy, intimacy and less drama.

It is easy to see why one would want to live a life full of Intimacy-Centric Relationships – more happiness, joy and less drama. However, the world is predominantly filled with people using the Control-Centric programming, and the question is, how to deal with them? Well, the answer lays – ironically - in a question or questions being more exact. I'll use an example. Let's say there is a minor car accident involving Control-Centric Person and you, the Intimacy-Centric Person. It is not clear who "caused" it but the 'Controller' storms out of the car and starts yelling at you.


CCP – "You jerk, are you blind or what? Look what you did to my car!"
You – "Thank you for telling me how you feel, would you like to tell me more about how you feel?"
CCP - "What? Are you serious? Don't you see how angry I am? I can spit blood right now!"
You – looking right into his eyes with deep care for his feelings you say "Thank you for telling me that."

If you truly care for the feelings of the other person (hence establishing intimacy) they will know it and the feelings of anger may start to tone down and transform as you receive them.

CCP – "Gosh, I was just on my way to a meeting and now what, my whole week is terrible, one bad thing happening after another."
You – "Thank you for telling me that."


Eventually CCP may calm down and become willing to listen to you, if you would like to share some feelings you can test the waters by asking;

You – "Can I share with you how I feel?
CCP – "Ehm, ok?"
You – "I feel hot and tired and shaky. I also feel relief that you, as well as me, are OK.
CCP – "Yeah, that is true. Me too. I also feel relieved"

By establishing intimacy you can ironically take "control" of the situation – non-controlling way, the intimate way, by carrying for feeling of others as they were your own.


The Rocks Process
Most of our gut, automatic reactions are deeply ingrained and mostly learned during our childhood or some stressful experiences. In TTP we call these Rocks. An example may be a person afraid of flying because a family member died in a plane crash. Whenever this person has to fly she may experience many forms of anxiety and fear. In the Rocks process the person may replace the rock she has (feeling anxiety every time she travels by plane) for more pro-active rock (feeling peaceful).

How Breathwork Works
Breathwork is a process during which the breather enters a non-ordinary state of consciousness with a goal of self-exploration and personal growth. The process includes following steps.
1. 24-hours of fasting with some higher intense physical work or exercise. Breathwork works better with low sugar content in the breathers system.
2. Clarifying a goal the breather is attempting to accomplish.
3. Breathwork itself - breathers lay down on the floor with eyes closed breathing fast and listening to loud evocative music. Every breather has a sitter, a person with a drum, which helps them to stay on track.
4. After the breather is done he records his insights right away, often in the form of a drawing.

What I intend to accomplish
Personal Growth, Getting better in serving others, Getting better in dealing with the ups and downs of our craft, Continue working towards mastery of our craft, Would be nice to see you again Chief

I commit to: participate fully in the Breathwork and report my experiences to FAQ one week later, one month later and 6 months later.

Read, understand and sign the hold-harmless disclaimer. - Pending