I would like for you to remove my post on July 29, 2014 "No Worries". I remember asking you to remove my picture but I may have forgotten to send the message.

Anyways I feel heat rise up to my head and them dissipate as I see my old post.

Thank you for your support with my Workshop follow up. Thanks to those who provide such useful comments and feedback.

"Work hard on my trading systems for three hours a day: See what feelings come up. Report bimonthly to my support team and FAQ." This starts from a comment at the workshop "Are you actually serious about trading?"

* I average just under 3 hours per day on my trading systems for the last two months and almost exactly 3 hours per day since the workshop. This in spite of a few bouts of minor illness.

* I complete the revamp of my software and I now have 5300 lines of code - a significant reduction, with more functionality. I have normal termination on running the strategies on individual markets but not yet on running on all markets in parallel. I see no need for further revamps at this time. No large bad surprises come to light. I mentally visualize myself completing this work and trading futures by end of year without any apparent uncomfortable feelings coming up.

* Weight loss continues, at a slower pace. I proceed towards my next target of 67kg by end September 2014 currently ~68kg.

* Progress on fitness activities continues. I proceed on track for intermediate level weight lifting by end of year. I have all my lifts but two at intermediate level and I have the other two within about 6% of target. I achieve my 'cardio' targets already.

* I take the physics stalls to the hot seat finally. I record my feelings for a couple of weeks following my abortive hot seat then take it to the hot seat. See "Jul 22, 2014 Tribe Meeting Report - Rocks or Bust". This produces huge results.

Since the hot seat I have completed two physics text books in a couple of months, versus 1/2 a book in 2 years previously. I feel more confident and able to tackle difficult topics. I update my plan for my studies to reflect the increased rate of progress. These changes impact other areas and I find myself more productive across the board, particularly with intellectually challenging activities. I no longer feel fear of not understanding something and this seems to make a big difference. I find I am now productive in the 90-80% range each day and I have taken on a new project - increasing my general knowledge by reading text books. So far I complete text books on economics, finance, biology and I am working on genetics and geology. This occurs while maintaining progress on other projects and it all feels like a huge huge win. I tell my wife it feels like I have x-ray vision when working on physics now.

* I attend a holotropic Breathwork session locally and have 2 hours of Breathwork. One of the most amazing experiences of my life and resolved many issues. See "Aug 20, 2014 Tribe Meeting Report". I book another session for later this month.

I commit to take 3 of the members of my local tribe out to a meal up to $80/head if I do not trade futures consistently by end March next year. I already have a commitment to take two members of my old tribe out if I do not trade futures consistently by the end of this year. The idea is to amp up the heat to see what if anything is slowing me down. This does add a sense of urgency to my work but no particular uncomfortable feelings come up so far.

My dog [Name] dies and we feel very sad for a while. My daughter moves to the USA to a research appointment. I feel happy for her but we miss her. We think about visiting her perhaps in combination with a Workshop or Breathwork weekend.

Next report 10th *November* 2014. This exceeds 12 months from the last workshop. However I would like to continue bimonthly reports until the end of the year in order to track the actual implementation of my futures trading. (Note I trade index ETFs for a couple of years just not futures yet).

Previous Report 10 July 2014 (I send this to FAQ but it does not appear there)

Thank you for your support with my workshop follow up. Thanks to those who provide such useful comments.

"Work hard on my trading systems for three hours a day: See what feelings come up. Report bimonthly to my support team and FAQ." This starts from a comment at the workshop "Are you actually serious about trading?"

* I average just over 3 hours per day on my trading systems for the last month and just over 3 hours per day since the workshop. This in spite of considerable travelling. I progress more slowly than I like. My system becomes more complicated as I tried to resolve outstanding issues and I discover a serious flaw in my handling of currencies. Also the programs are running too slowly to be usable.

So I revamp the software yet again. The new system has fewer lines of code (~5500) and I am finding it a lot simpler to program. Also it runs much faster. However this is not the first rewrite. There always seems to be a reason why I cannot complete it just yet. And this has been going on for some years. To put this in context my original objective was to have futures trading in place in mid 2010!

All this points to the high likelihood that I am procrastinating as my former fellow tribesmen from point out. So I commit - as another "Following Through" hack as mentioned in my last report - to my fellow tribesmen from my old home town that next time I visit or by the end of this year, if I am not trading futures in full measure I buy them a nice meal out. As I hate losing 'bets' like this motivates me a lot.

* I continue progress on strength and fitness with my weight now below 70 kg and 20% fat/weight down from 80 kg and 25% fat/weight with targets 65 kg and 15% fat/weight. My wife also loses weight and is no longer overweight (I am about 2% over the normal range now).

I decide to remove my targets for advanced level weight lifting as they create a risk of injury, consume too much energy and add little value. Instead I plan to maintain intermediate level until all my lifts are to intermediate level, and then move up to higher weights only as I feel very confident that I am ready for the higher weights. The remaining lifts that are below intermediate level are Vertical Press at 33 kg X 20 repetitions versus 35 kg for intermediate and Pendlay Row at 58kg X 20 versus 65kg for intermediate). I also achieve a 200 meter climb with a 30kg pack.

* I have feedback that my proposed question to my wife "Are you happy you married me" and the target answer of "Yes!" may amount to an attempt to control my wife's feelings. So I ask her about it. She says a) It is a legitimate question and b) the answer is "Yes!".

* Everything else is going well except I am stall on my physics studies and have an aborted hot seat about this last week. If the issue continues I plan a hot seat and rocks process about it. See "Jul 8, 2014 Tribe Meeting Report" on FAQ.

Next report 10th *September* 2014. This marks 12 months from the workshop. However I would like to continue bimonthly reports until the end of the year in order to track the actual implementation of my futures trading.

The situation I want:
I would like to listen to my worry and use it as a tool make improve my situation.

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The situation I have:
I fear failure so I do not try. I do not work or contribute much to anything. I do not know my own self worth. I stay idle while my mind runs all over the place trying to "figure it all out".

The situation I want:
I would like to feel this feeling. I would like to increase my own self worth by working.

Shame

Hi Ed,

I think that before a certain event I do not feel shame. And I act in shameful ways without admitting this to myself. Recently an event happens in which I feel much shame. This manifests in me producing much more saliva and spitting it out.

The feeling first manifests in a dream and I wake up with the feeling. My mind produces dream images to make me feel a feeling I will not consciously feel.

Like you say, the under Fred finds ways of connecting us together to play out our dramas.

I look forward to your workshop, and to learn ways to decrease resistance to my feelings so they don't have to escalate into large drama.

Thanks for listening and putting up with me,

Sep 8, 2014

Salsa and Bluegrass

Ed,

In case you get tired of all the Salsa music in Puerto Rico, you might like to view this video, in remembrance of the man.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqd7mXvHupU&feature=em-share_video_user

Sep 8, 2014

Detaching from Feelings

Chief,

In the Breathwork last September, I work on the feeling of being apprehensive of getting what I want. For the year following the Breathwork, I am able to make friends with the apprehension feeling without running away.

Yesterday in the forest, I want to go off road and cross a field with weeds in the national forest. I am afraid of there maybe rattle snake inside. I feel weakness on my knees, wanting to jump. I acknowledge the feeling and walk through it. It is a shortcut. I don't really need to take the shortcut, I just want to test myself the ability to detach from my feelings.

I see the power of the process and also see the danger of the capability from the process. Seeking experience of challenging feelings may sounds a new fun for me but it may also be risky and costly. And I enjoy more with Rocks Process, where I connect feelings and let the situation settle itself.

Thanks,

Wants $100,000,000.00

Hi Ed,

I'm an S&P Emini trader. I like trading S&P Emini because of its leverage.

Can you give me some advice on how to get to $100M goal?

I know it's a crazy question but that's my goal!

Thanks,

I notice FAQ reader eats only when hungry and loses significant weight. I commend him.

I cry continually [the] last five years over [a] hurtful man.

I am not slim anymore but fluffy. I think if I'm fluffy, men will leave me alone. I still get attention as fluffy girl. Men like fluffy girls - who knew? I give men no attention but still pursued as fluffy girl.

I don't like fluffy. I cry everyday. I never show I cry. Perhaps I showed one man in last year.

I tried eat only when hungry diet. It worked for other FAQ reader. I lose some weight. I must still medicate with food.

As young girl, my father said many times, "you had better learn to type as your beautiful looks and charming personality will fade." I never thought I was beautiful or charming. I learned to type. I cry often remembering this.

Was my father correct? Was I hurt because beautiful looks and charming personality faded? Do I stay fluffy thinking I can't be hurt again?

I wonder why I can't correct this. I wonder what you see.

Sincerely,

Dear Ed,

As I read and very much enjoy Govopoly in the 39th Day I feel a sense of admiration at your insight and system modeling skills. I particularly enjoy your AHA into not needing to fix things or people and what I interpret as your acceptance of "things as they are".

I do feel a slight sense of let-down at the absence of specific suggestions to "implement adaptive investing" whilst simultaneously noticing my own wanting to have it all done for me & understanding that this is not necessarily beneficial.

I sit in my garden and look at my lovely pond (about 500 square feet) and contemplate the challenges of duckweed and how I approach it over the last 7 years.

The first two seasons, we reach the 40th day sometime in late August : there is a LOT of duckweed to physically remove (perhaps 3 cubic meters for the compost heap). For year 3, I design a simple recycling system, pumping water from an adjacent irrigation ditch into the pond, at the end of which I create a small dam, slightly raising the pond level so that the dam sluices duckweed & water back (& further along) into the irrigation ditch.

I refine this simple solution over the years such that even if the 39th Day is reached in mid-August (as I am typically on vacation for 3 weeks, during which no pond supervision takes place).. the 40th Day IS NEVER REACHED. Not only that, but as Chauncey Gardiner wisely says :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYeVQzTVyLk .

In other words, the cycle continues naturally without complete implosion (& in my example, Dutch irrigation ditches are cleared every year, so my channeling away of duckweed does not simply "kick the duckweed can downstream".

Of course, humanity may overwhelm all natural cycles and destroy itself in all sorts of ways - the planet will ultimately survive, humanity perhaps not.... but this in itself is a natural cycle.

I feel very happy to experience your wisdom, both via TTP and "Govopoly", and wish you ongoing enjoyment and deep acceptance of this wonderful, ever-present moment of Now.

shanti,

I sit on the brink of the final third, or less, of my life. I begin to understand my fear of moving ahead with some major changes that I believe I want to make.

I feel many emotions as I realize that my life proceeds as a single person, with no "life partner" at my side:

On the one hand, I have complete freedom of choice: nobody I must check with and/or accommodate before making a decision or taking an action. I feel excited and I notice my heart racing when I imagine all the possibilities.

Then, my racing heart becomes more of a pounding heart: no one will come looking for me if I get lost or need help!

I have friends and loved ones, so the issue reflects more my need for a "primary" relationship/life partner; someone with whom I make the mutual commitment of ongoing loyalty and support.

I can do anything I want, no limits except my own! Oh, wow!

Oh, sh-t!

Isn't sideways trend (trading range) a trend too?

In case of a trading range (sideways trend) shouldn't the trend-following strategy be trading the sideways trend instead of waiting for a breakout?

This would also mean trading in the now instead of waiting for a non-existent future?

regards

I cried at your quote:

The book arrived day before yesterday. Thanks for the book. I have gone through it once.

I liked the book. Its well written book and I get the message.

The only doubt I had was how do we undertake adaptive investing in an environment where the systems are becoming increasingly unstable.

I mean there are chances of markets or brokers shutting down or blowing up. If the price trend is exponential how about buying physical gold and waiting for a new system to emerge?

Can the markets be trusted to keep functioning through it all?

Thanks

Hi Ed,

Just now received Govopoly.

Really excited and looking forward for a fruitful Sunday.

God Bless you long and healthy life.

Thanks and Regards.

Hi Chief,

Thank you for sharing your feelings.

Ed,

I read the post dated Sep. 4, 2014 "Assimilation by Govopoly" and I see interesting facts about the presidential election. I see the facts for square miles won by Obama vs square miles won by Romney and I wonder about the dollar value of those square miles.

I also see the democracy cycle and wonder if that also applies for a person's emotional life cycle.

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I feel embarrassment and fear and shame regarding sharing my fantasies. I deal with this somewhat in my previous personal e-mail to you. I wonder how I can look you in the eyes after all the stuff I tell you ...

The situation I have:

What I share with you next feels highly personal to me. Please keep this to yourself unless you feel that this may be a great help to others. I have shame, fear, anger, sadness, and probably other emotions related to this. I share this with you so that I can first admit to myself what I have trouble admitting. I pray that this helps me. I read the post on April 15, 2013 "Women Prefer Tribe Members". I see the picture you attach of a lovely woman and her smile that lights and lift my heart. I would like to make [Name] that happy. This post gives me strength to type this to you.

I would like to admit what I want so that I may experience this feeling of what I want. I pray the truth sets me free and I gain the strength to live freely and to promote freedom for [Name] first and foremost and then myself and my family.

I feel my heart beat. I have a frown on my face. As I think of telling you this and I see a way for my feelings to open up my eyes tear and I feel the corners of my lips turning up into a smile. I can make her happy. I would like to dedicate my life to something greater than myself.

In my dream, when you ask me what I want. In my head I think "I want to have a bigger dick so I can abuse her with it". As I type this I feel my face go back into a frown my eyebrows furrow and I feel blood vessels. I feel blood trickle in the vessels of my right leg on the back part below my buttocks.

I lay on my stomach, my face still in with furrowed brows and pouting lips. I rest my head on my forearm.

The situation I would like:

I would like to join a Tribe where I can find safety to let out my feelings, take part to build a safe community that encourages and promotes freedom of expression. I would like to marry [Name]. I want my wife to have a deserving husband and I would like to step into that role. I love her, provide for her and protect and share intimate moments with her. I see myself with a Tribe once a week, and when I come home, [Name] greets me with a warm smile. On some days she cooks at home and bring the Tribe a meal after we have our meeting. I work to keep our lines of communication open and to establish rapport with her to receive her fully and unconditionally. I would like to hold myself accountable for my actions and I may need Tribe to get me to see what I would rather keep hidden from myself. I work to provide income for our family. I find work in San Francisco to build something with others. I would like to build a community. I build myself from the ground up.

I keep myself away from drugs and other medicinal response patterns.

I think about fear which I feel in the past I feel my light slowly dimming a little. I want a way to proactively deal with my fear.

As I type this I find my spirit rising. I think about what others may think of me and I feel some fear of judgement but I also have tears in my eyes from the feeling that others may benefit from my pouring my heart out. I feel pressing on both sides of my head.

As I strive for self-sufficiency and self-reliance, I start to gain the resolve finally let go of my codependent relationship with my former boyfriend.

I come to the decision, that at this point in my life, I can't attend the upcoming PR Workshop.

When I can pay for the workshop with my own funds, I'll happily attend one of your workshops, comforted by the knowledge that I earned my way.

With that said, I wonder if you could give [Name] a refund, for my early-bird workshop payment.

Thank you,

The thoughts that come to me are:

1. "Money breeds money"

2. I relate my behavior with your response on "attachment with short term outcomes". I realize my attachment to short term outcomes which has enabled me to get out of a few positions such as SI, LC much earlier than the model dictated. Thank you for your insights which cause me to realize the importance of "sticking to the system".

3.Would you mind having a look at my system rules and back-test results ? if you have sometime?

Regards

I really like the content, I love the fact that it includes more than just trading.

I am very inspired by Ed's journey and stories that I have read in various books and online over the year. He has been an idol and reference of mine ever since I started in the trading world in NY back in 2000.

It is also very cool to see that he lives in Puerto Rico where my family is from. It is a beautiful island which I am sure he will enjoy. If he ever had any questions, or points of reference that he needed about the island. He could e-mail me and I will help as much as I can, I still have a lot of family living there.

Anyway the purpose of this e-mail is to ask how do I join the Trading Tribe? I would like to receive updates when there are new posts and I would occasionally like to contribute to the actual FAQ's page.

This seems like a group of very open minded, thought provoking individuals and I would like to be a part of it. Kudos to Ed for creating it.

Have a blessed day.

All the Best,

I see a bear in the national park last long weekend.

Now I see a lot bears in my portfolio, they become the main forces driving my profit. After reading Govopoly, I start to have some feelings on short trades. I use to like plunge. But now I like long more. I might need to do more long only back testing.

When the signal pulls me into more short trades, I am feeling chill, my stomach sinks, my eyes wide open and weakness on my limbs, I feel out of breath.

And my hair rise.

I wonder how you feel right now?

Cheers,

I get fantasies inside my head and I don't know what to do with them.

I get the feeling of excitement but if I act on them in real life I would probably regret having done so.

Yet these fantasies have disappeared for a while but now they come back. I wonder what you have to say about this.

I think my subconscious tells me something but I don't know. I wonder what your experience tells you about my problem.

P.S. I wonder how you do. Just want to say that I look forward to experiencing a healing field of acknowledgement at workshop.

I receive this from a friend - it may be of interest to you

Sincerely,


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This was written over 120 years ago.

Still worth reading again and AGAIN.

In 1887 Alexander Tyler, a Scottish history professor at the University of Edinburgh , had this to say about the fall of the Athenian Republic some 2,000 years prior: "A democracy is always temporary in nature; it simply cannot exist as a permanent form of government. A democracy will continue to exist up untilthe time that voters discover that they can vote themselves generous gifts from the public treasury. From that moment on, the majority always votes for the candidates who promise the most benefits from the public treasury, with the result that every democracy will finally collapse over loose fiscal policy, (which is) always followed by a dictatorship."

"The average age of the world's greatest civilizations from the beginning of history, has been about 200 years. During those 200 years, these nations always progressed through the following sequence:

From bondage to spiritual faith;
From spiritual faith to great courage;
From courage to liberty;
From liberty to abundance;
From abundance to complacency;
From complacency to apathy;
From apathy to dependence;
From dependence back into bondage."

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The Obituary follows:

Born 1776, Died 2016
It doesn't hurt to read this several times. Professor Joseph Olson of Hamline University School of Law in St. Paul, Minnesota, points out some interesting facts concerning the last Presidential election:

Number of States won by: Obama: 19 Romney: 29
Square miles of land won by: Obama: 580,000 Romney: 2,427,000
Population of counties won by: Obama: 127 million Romney: 143 million
Murder rate per 100,000 residents in counties won by:
Obama: 13.2 Romney: 2.1

Professor Olson adds: "In aggregate, the map of the territory Romney won was mostly the land owned by the taxpaying citizens of the country.

Obama territory mostly encompassed those citizens living in low income tenements and living off various forms of government welfare..."

Olson believes the United States is now somewhere between the"complacency and apathy" phase of Professor Tyler's definition of democracy, with some forty percent of the nation's population already having reached the "governmental dependency" phase..

If Congress grants amnesty and citizenship to twenty million criminal invaders called illegals - and they vote - then we can say goodbye to the USA in fewer than five years.

I notice that when my [member of the family] comes around, I step into my old habits. I lose motivation for the small moments in life and I close myself up. I do not show up to work and I close myself from others. I have a down sort of feeling that I feel embarrassed to show others. When I get this feeling I turn into my "don't give a f-ck mode" and not in a productive way but in a way that damages myself physically and emotionally. I skip my workouts and I eat late at night among other things I feel to embarrassed to mention.

I gain my anger back which makes me not want to deal with people. However I do not feel comfortable unleashing this anger. If intentions = results then I get what I want. I have an excuse to not keep up the progress I make. I slip back into the old me. I would like to learn how I can deal with these emotions in a productive way.

I read a contributor's submission dated Sep. 1, 2014 "Breathwork Update" and I get a glimpse of an inner confidence I would like to build within myself. I would like to have the confidence and determination to disregard short term losses in favor of long term gains.

Currently I read the book Fooled by Randomness by Nassim Taleb, and he writes about having a statistical edge which shows up over the long run. However, this falls contrary to how our minds work. I want to work on having the capacity to deal with drawdowns in the markets and my personal life while sticking to a winning system.

I feel heavy in my chest as I write this as I know this may not be an easy task.

I would like to share some improvements I make also. I learn about monte carlo simulation last week. When I have the energy and the feeling to do it, learning doesn't seem so hard. I have focus but I lose my focus easily when my "bad" emotions get in the way.

The situation I have:

I do not know how to deal with anger and I suspect sadness behind this anger emotion.

The situation I want:

I learn to feel and express my anger and other emotions in a productive and intimacy centric way.

Thanks for reading,

P.S. I get the thought I am not good enough and I should have a better job, I should be taller, I should make more money, which is not something that I don't want, and I know my [family member] wants the best for me, but somewhere along the way my feelings get hurt and when feelings get hurt, I shut down. "Being emotional" carries a negative implication in my tribe. Whatever [family member] says logically makes sense, but...

Ahhhh....

Also since my down motion begins a couple says ago I get a calls from a friend to have lunch and after we have lunch. I feel shame when I look at him and I feel sorry for him, but I notice that what I see in him reflects what I see in myself. It shows me what I would like to change in myself.

Thanks for listening,

P.P.S.
Whatever this feeling is dries my eyes and makes me able to sleep for many more hours than I need. I close myself up and sleep. I would like to change this response to get up, get motivated and work for my long term gains.

I come across this quote yesterday and am reminded of day trading (and the desire to believe in what the day trading industry has to say), a phase I go through during my evolution as a trader ...

... before joining the Trading Tribe and learning about intimacy centric relating + healthy boundary setting.

"A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep" - Saul Bellow

Sep 3, 2014

Picks and Shovels

Ed,

Ed Says: "You make more by dealing, not using."

So true. My plan is to provide superior pick and shovels for the current green rush. No PLANT life was hurt writing my project proposal. PS. I just realized your answer's meaning I think. Nothing in my plan involves consumption of Cannabis. I offer opportunity. A system/kit costs about $50, sells for $299. Futures trade when Govopoly assimilates, (a great word for devours) a share of the future profits as tax, etc. Thank you. Please let me know if I may be of service.

P.S. My initial site idea: a portal to Cannabis Friendly state Credit Unions.

P.P.S. I read about Cannabis treating this disorder [Onychophagia, below] or the CNS anxiety. I feel a connection with the poster in many ways. Embarrassing to bite my nails, worse not to get laid for months, OK quarters. What do I get out of this ritual? It is a ritual, a form. I break it down: Soft lips, trust, moisture, suckling, comfort. I feel many chew their nails. I appreciate all FAQ contributions.

[I realize] I strive to win [name]'s approval. [Name] uses this to control me.

Regards

My two sons (16 and 9) decide to move in with me and leave their mother.
My older son tells me that he prefers the way I relate with people. My
girlfriend is also moving in with us.

Frequently I find the interaction with my daughter (14) somehow
difficult. She gives me orders, tells me what I have to do and always
wants to have the last word. I explain her that this kind of interaction
is difficult for me and that I don´t like people to command me. She
decides to live with her mother, who in my view also applies
control-centric methods.

I observe with curiosity the way that the system evolves and try not to
intervene and leave the children make their own decisions.

Best regards,

Hope all is well in Puerto Rico. The weather has been very nice in [City].

I have been searching for a way to do support lines and resistance lines using a mathematical method to no avail.

I am being told it cannot be done with math!

I was wondering if you could give me some help.

I would like to test some systems using support and resistance.

I was also wondering if you use volume in your calculations or if you just use the high of the day?

Thank you!

P.S.

Silver helped me out in August – still short. I am also long Feeder Cattle and the E-mini S&P

Sincere Regards,

I know I will be travelling a lot next month, so writing my progress note a month earlier.

During the workshop I worked on the issue of lack of trust.

Before the workshop (or rather the TTP workshop), I had been moving from one trading system to another as I could not find a system that I was comfortable with. Also, because of my lack of trust, I traded only a small amount of money in each of the system I tried. After the TTP workshop in September, I found a trading system that worked for my personality and still I put only 60% of my capital. After the Breathwork, I was able to trade 100% of my capital and the results have improved dramatically (see the attached document). Also important for me is the fact that for almost a year (since the TTP workshop), I have stuck to one system (I have modified some aspects, but it is basically the same approach).

I not only improved on my performance but also in my mental state. Before the Breathwork workshop, my mood would improve or get worse based on how my system performed; if the equity was going up I would feel happy and would feel sad when the equity would go down. For the last three or four months, I neither feel too excited when my equity is going up or depressed when the equity is going down. There is this inner confidence in the system (I probably won't be able to express that properly in words, it is more of a feeling).

Not everything has been great though as I have not been as successful in my other commitment, i.e. managing my weight and fasting once a week. My weight has gone in the other direction than what I wanted.

I would almost feel a resistance when trying to lose weight and could not figure out why. I reflected on that resistance for the last few weeks and I saw in the FAQ someone had asked you about intention = results. After seeing that note about intention = results, it occurred to me that all my growing up years, I have been told that I have been told that I am too skinny, so subconsciously it felt good when someone said that I gained weight. I hope that I can reprogram my mind to feel good about losing weight.

I cannot thank you enough for helping me out with improving my trading. I am also thankful to two other workshop attendees, [Names] (TTP workshop), whose work and suggestions has kept me going. I hope that you do another Breathwork Workshop in the future. Hope to meet with you again in the near future.

Kind Regards

Sep 1, 2014

Book Review

Hi Ed,

Thanks for asking me to tell you something the book "Non Violent Communication" means to me.

The results I get from practicing the process outlined in the book represents much more value to me than what it means to me personally.

The book describes an effective system to practice intimacy centric relationships. I apply it in the communication with my son and my wife.

I experience the dissolving of drama and some persistent patterns in my family communication. Conversely, the process increases the cooperation amongst ourselves.

It consists of 4 step process I follow whenever I communicate with someone. The four elements apply on sending and receiving the communication.

Let's say about in receiving a communication.

The first step consist in observing what happens now without judgement and that gives me more clarity to filter away judgement. The skill here consists on separating observation from evaluation.

That leads me to the second step which consist in identifying what the other person feels and allow the other to experience the feeling, recognizing the feeling. I just need to listen without suppressing, judging and just let the feeling to unfold naturally.

By doing so it naturally take me to the third step which consists on identifying the need not fulfilled which represents what triggers the feeling. The feeling represents the overflowing of that unfulfilled need.

The last step in this exchange, once the need is identified consist in asking the other person to make a request to me on how clearly I can contribute on making the need fulfilled.

I achieve progress by practicing it and I find powerful. It brings awareness to all in the relationship and I am shocked on the amount of cooperation I get from the other party by just letting the process naturally unfolds, without any coercion, blame, guilt or judgment.

I confess that it takes practice and I learn from it by experiencing and testing it in whatever situation I find an opportunity to apply.

The same process applies when I send my feelings. I take total responsibility for them and my needs, without blaming anyone to the arouse of my feelings. Then I can make clear requests on what I want cooperation from others in order to fulfil my needs and It is NOT a demand at all. It is a request and the other person has total freedom not to comply with the request, but for my amazement they cooperate.

Thanks for receiving me

"To take responsibility for the feeling of others can be very detrimental to intimate relationships" - Marshal Rosemberg